Stopping Self Sabotaging Behavior

Man has pondered the mind for eons. It has baffled and excited him
like no other subject. I’m sure if you asked a behavioral scientist,
“why we act the way we do?” He would give more answers than you cared
to know.

Like, most people walk around in a trance sabotaging themselves at
every turn. Not to mention, that stopping self sabotaging behavior
could lead them to success.

Scientist believe that there is no limitation to the mind. There is no
limitation to what a person can accomplish. So, why do so many people
go through life accomplishing nothing?

Why would a person just go through life an some even check out of life
and become beggars on the street? They have no ambition whatsoever.
They believe a life of success is not for them but for those other
people.

Yet we know there is no limit to what you can learn. You can continue
to learn barring any mental illness until the day you die.

The Power Of A Paradigm Shift

The way we think has a lot to do with how we navigate through life.
Thus, a timid person goes through cautious and afraid. While a bold
person will go through life taking risks.

The results you get in your business, marriage, relationships, etc. is
an expression of what’s going on inside. You can’t let what’s going on
outside interfere with what’s going on inside.

The results always tell the truth. Take a close look at your results
and ask yourself, “how did your results happen?” Everyone wants to
permanently improve their results. If you want to change your results
you must change your paradigm.

We are the only creatures that can get outside ourselves and look at
our behaviors. Paradigm, a mental program that has almost exclusive
control over your habitual behavior. And almost all of your behavior
is habitual.

To be able to shape your future you have to be willing and able to
change your paradigm. Paradigms are a multitude of habits, usually
other people’s habits. Poverty consciousness is passed down from one
generation to the next.

Moreover, I remember reading an article years ago about a study done
on a family. This article was centered around a family three
generations and they were all on welfare.

The writer said that when the family got together for a meal most of
the conversation was centered around welfare. Welfare for that family
is the norm not the exception. Another generation being on welfare
will more than likely be the result.

It Is All About The Mind

Are you afraid of success? The majority of people asked that question
would probably say no. Yet they continue to self sabotage themselves
out of success. What are some signs of self-sabotage? Here are a few:

• When things get a little tough you quit.
• You let people monopolize your time.
• You spend a lot of time planning with no execution.
• You fear change.
• Always starting but never finishing.
• Listening to your inner critic.
• Drinking too much alcohol.
• Taking illegal drugs.
• Too much self-medicating.
• Procrastination.
• Over eating or eating the wrong things.
• People pleasing.
• Blaming inability to take responsibility.
• Refusing to ask for help.

You may not have even been aware that you are self sabotaging
yourself. How do we get caught in self sabotage? Usually from self
debilitating beliefs. Like I said before they can be passed down from
generation to generation. We have a tendency to mimic our parents.

Stop Self Sabotage Behavior

How can you stop self sabotage? One way is to examine your thoughts.
What are you thinking? Are your thoughts positive or negative? You
must become more aware.

Question your lifestyle choices. Watch the things you habitually do
and replace your negative habits with positive ones.

Do you know your triggers? If you’re a recovering alcoholic you can’t
hang around people that drink alcohol no matter how much you love
them. Avoid extreme emotional situations.

Don’t play the victim you are in control. Be disciplined. Discipline:
the ability to give yourself a command and then follow it.

Change the way you feel about yourself. You are capable. You can do
what you set your mind too. Believe in yourself. Think bigger.

Learn from your mistakes. There is nothing worse than repeating the
same mistake over and over. That’s kind of like the definition of
insanity, doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

In summing up you must become more aware of you’re self sabotaging
behaviors. If there is a problem in your behavior then there is a
problem in your mind.

Be aware of your thoughts. Thinking is the highest thing you are
capable of.

The most powerful ability is your ability to choose. Choose to change.
Choose to be bold. Choose to win.

Take risks and defeat fear. The cave you fear to enter holds the
treasure you seek.

Continue to grow and continue to learn. In times of change the
learners will survive in the earth. They will be able to evolve to
deal with the world.

Focus on success. Whatever you focus on becomes real for you even if
it’s not.

EH

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